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Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE important to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking.

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

Getting girls to feel an attraction for you – that isn’t simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you’ve got parked outside – can be really tricky.

After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl’s looking for without asking?

If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions – she wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to her.

So how do you do it?

How do you become the man that effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence, without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe?

The answer lies in psychology. It’s at the heart of all persuasive social situations, and absolutely central to the success of any guy’s attempts at attracting and seducing women. Quite simply, by learning the CORRECT psychological rules, principles and tactics, any guy can play and WIN at the game of seduction. For example, let’s look at one such psychological technique, that used correctly boosts any guy’s chance of getting a girl’s number or hooking up with her at a later date by at  least 50%, each and every time he uses it. It’s called option limitation and works on the following principle of human nature:

When someone’s presented with only a single choice, often their natural reaction will be to rebel against it and go their own way. However, when given 2 or 3 options, the opposite occurs: they feel their intellectual freedom has been respected and they make their choice from the variety of options they’ve been presented with.

You can use this universal psychological principle when picking-up or seducing a woman by carefully constructing how you pose important questions or phrases while talking to her.

For example, most men think saying: “Can I have your number?” is an okay way to finish a conversation that’s gone well with a girl. But a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing would be to use option limitation. Something like: “It’s been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow?” What you’re doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she’s likely to create her own alternative, which means there’s a chance she won’t say yes to the option you gave her. When she subconsciously recognizes that she’s been given a choice between multiple outcomes, she feels her intellectual freedom has been respected and she chooses one of them.

So, always use option limitation to give the impression there’s a variety of options available to the girl – even though each one is fine as far as you’re concerned. And to strengthen the effect of option limitation, always try to separate the choices you give the girl with the word “or.”  When people hear “or” they automatically recognize that they need to make a choice, and therefore do just that.

Option limitation is just one example of how, whether they know it or not, men who are successful with women CREATE that success for themselves – not through luck or good fortune.

There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what’s the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swiveling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Want to become an expert in reading body language? Can you tell when people lie and understand the intentions of the people?

I feel that body language is the most important things you can learn. It ignores the verbal communication barriers and gives an overview of what others may think or what actions it might take. Remember that the art of being able to read body language is being able to see someones pick up signals, while not allowing this person to pick up on what you’re doing.

1. – Eyes

Dilated pupils – the person is interested in the subject.

People say that eyes are the windows to the soul. They may say as much about the person if you know what you’re looking for. As in most cases, the signal can be interpreted differently. It depends entirely upon the circumstances at hand. The previous example could also mean that the person is on drugs, or could mean they are concentrated.

2. – Hands

Open Palm .- A person is relaxed and comfortable.

The hands have many expressions and are a good starting point to reading body language. In general, when hands are open, meaning that they relax their defenses.

3 – Imitation

When you talk to someone if they are imitating the body’s position and action, this means they are comfortable with the situation and most likely interested in you and what you say.

4 – Eyes

If the eyes of someone is looking around you, then they may be feeling guilty about something. Remember, the eyes have many meanings and is easy to make the wrong assessment. Practice makes perfect.

5 – Arms

The two main expressions of the arms is that they are tightly closed (folded) or open. Once folded, the person may have anger or disapproval. When your arms are open so that the person is in an honest and accept the situation.

6 – Chin Rubbing

If someone rubs their chin, this usually means they are thinking, when a person thinks (good or bad) then you know you have captured their attention which in most cases is a good thing.

7 – Feet

When you’re talking to someone, you know if you are comfortable and interested in what you say about the position of their feet. When standing face to face, the feet of the others face in your direction. This means they are comfortable and their head and eyes will be on you.

When someone standing in front of your feet and their head and eyes do not focus on you. This usually means lack of interest.

8 – Legs

Legs are a good indicator of the degree of trust from someone. If someone is standing with legs apart to shoulder width, are relaxed.

When standing up with legs crossed, the person probably is shy.

Once seated, if the legs are crossed indicates that the person is in protection mode. This is used together with the action through the arm.

9 – Fingers

The fingers can create a lot of gestures and perfect in reading body language. A person can be a finger pointing to an item or place, can also indicate anger. If someone is bent toes usually need something.

Drums or tapping the finger shows frustration. The faster the beat, more frustration and tension in the person.

10 – Eyebrows

The eyebrows have many uses. The following are some examples. When the eyebrows are raised, the person is shocked or surprised.

I hope you enjoyed learning tips on reading body language tricks. Learning how to read body language is not a skill that can be learned overnight. The more you practice, the easier it will become and the more subtle you will become.

For Him:

For Her:

Reading body language is easy to spot if you know what to look for. These are messages that are sent automatically and unconsciously. Women send about five times more messages of body language and gestures than men in the same period.

Reading body language proved to be our most reliable indicator of how others think and feel about us. Men tend to pay more attention to verbal messages and ignore reading body language and this is where most men fail to communicate with females. This is unfortunate because all messages from the unconscious body language is accurate and truthful. Words are not often true.

Reading body language reflects deep answers only in the brain’s limbic system. The usual body language that has worked for the survival and mating has been refined and repeated from generation to generation. Today, women still use many of the same body language to attract men that their earliest ancestors used.

Woman use their entire body when sending signals and a lot of it comes from entwining her legs. The most common body language is that a woman begins to shake all her hair, stroking and painting, and generally move away from the face and shoulders to expose soft bare skin are strong indications that women are open to be approached by men.

Flirting body language is undeniable. Another important movement is for her to adjust clothing with relaxation, openness or exposure of the movement to call attention to her body. If she’s smart, she exposes some bare skin in the process and you’re good at reading body language, you can pick up the signals and approach at just the right moment.

Reading the body language of a woman flirting is often the opening movements of clothing and exposure of bare skin or touching her hair. Flirting body language is all too common with women and you need to know how to read and pick up on them, because women know what men want.

For Him:

For Her:

Reading body language can be difficult to most of the time, but did you know that the best way to know what the person thinks about you is through the eyes? The eyes are the windows to the soul, and they never lie. Even the slightest wink or blink emotion may be deeper than you may know and the feelings and suggestions of dark secrets yet to be revealed. Here are five ways to reading body language by eye contact. Learn how to spot and know exactly what a person thinks of you.

- The soft eyes. Or more popularly, the doe eyes. The eyes are soft, slightly drooping and bright. When someone gives you that look, feel attracted to you and do everything possible so that you look back.

- Prolonged eye contact. Intellectuals like to make eye contact during conversation. Prolonged eye contact may be a sign of interest in what you speak, or are more and more intrigued. They can try to find out if you’re interested too.

- The slight look or glance. An index of insecurity and anxiety that you may not like them. The glance often shows that they have a huge need to be admired and desired.

- Look fleeting. Contact with the eyes of failure. You can see for a while and then look away and then look back. It is a sign that are threatened or intensely shy.

- Intense light. Totally into you, no doubt. Eye contact means that are very interested and attracted to you and wants you to know this.

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For Her:

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